1 This is a basic rule when dating. After getting her number, do not call her immediately because this might just give her the impression that you are bored and have nothing to do in life or worse, she might think you are desperate. But don’t wait for too long before calling her because she might get angry or might even forget you. You don’t want to experience the awkward feeling of reminding her how the two of you met. Call her within two to four days after getting her number. The calls will get more relaxed as you enter the dating stage. You do not need to set another date when you call her for the first time; instead, you can simply thank her for the time she spent with you.
2 It is a rule that you should call her with a valid reason, like that there is something urgent you need to ask. After three or more months, you can call her more spontaneously but you should still have a reason, though it does not have to be as rigid as the first few months. You can call her just to tell her about the movie you just watched but try to avoid calling her without any reason at all or just because you want to hear her voice. If you really want to call just because you want to, make up a reason. She will definitely notice this but at least you are not so aggressive and this may also look sweet for her.
3 Girls chat with their friends for long periods, and if you do this too, you might end up in the friend zone. Always keep in mind that you call her for a reason and you need to get directly to the point. Besides, calling her on the phone is just an interlude to dating, not a substitute. Chatting must be done personally. If she wants to talk with you for a while, engage for a short while and never make it overly long.
4 Prepare an excuse to hang up first sometimes. When you call, tell her first that the call will be short due to certain reason. Once you have said what you need to say, tell her your excuse like somebody is at your door and then hang up. Also, do not engage in the “You hang up; No, you hang up” game. If she tries this at you, just say okay and then hang up. Do this to make her want more but make sure you are not being rude.
5 Even though women are born to be good listeners, nobody wants to hang out with someone who always complains and is always gloomy. So at least during the early stages of your dates, keep your issues within and maintain a positive attitude. This will not only attract her but it will also benefit you, like making you a warmer and happier person.
6 Always make sure that you leave a remarkable impression after hanging up. This will help you redeem yourself even if the start of your conversation was awkward. She will always remember the last thing you said after hanging up. So, when calling her on the phone, make sure you make her smile before ending the call. You may do this by cracking a good joke, a piece of hilarious news or anything that you know will make her laugh.
7 Of course, do not call her during work hours. Not only you will get screwed up when caught by your boss but she will also get interrupted with her job. There is no way that she can enjoy talking to you with her co-workers and boss around. Besides, do not give her the hard question of making her choose between her family and you. Be a considerate guy. If you want to set a date during the weekend, call her on a Wednesday, not on a Friday or Saturday evening because this will give her the impression that you do not respect her enough, you are not serious about the date, you are just bored, or worse you are just looking for a weekend booty call.
8 Men and women have different perceptions when it comes to phone calls. Talking over phone may seem to be impersonal for you, but for her, she can spend long hours talking about her life over the phone. In cases like this, look at a picture of her while talking so that you will feel more connected to her.
9 Closed-ended questions only require a yes or a no for an answer. This will make your conversation boring and the girl you are courting might lose interest in talking to you. Use open-ended questions like "What do you think about a certain movie?" where she has to explain further. This will keep your conversation going and interesting.
10 More rules to bear in mind
Jan 14, 2015  Modern phones do just about everything, so it's easy to forget that they can make actual calls, too. Take this opportunity to brush up on some old-fashioned phone etiquette from the days when the technology was brand-new—this way, you won't be caught off-guard next time someone actually dials your number to give you a ring. The practice of saying “hello” at the beginning of every call was thought to be so superfluous that British phone authorities included instructions in their guidebooks in the 1920s to advise people not to use the greeting. “Hello” should be implied, they figured, and the extra time used to issue the pleasantry tied up phone lines. Modern day fans of getting to the point will surely agree. Telephone inventor Alexander Graham Bell suggested a different greeting for use on his creation: “Ahoy.” It didn’t catch on, but it’s certainly more fun to say than “hello.” We’re sure Bell would have appreciated you following his lead. A worrying practice in the early 20th century saw folks placing calls and then leaving their telephones to go about their other business, often making a family member or servant tell the person on the other line to wait for the lengthy process of completing the call. If you don’t have time to call someone, don’t call them. At the turn of the 20th century, it was considered rude to invite someone to a shindig over the phone. Real mail should be used, etiquette experts insisted, as the new technology wasn’t becoming of something as important as a party. The permanence of paper post also gave recipients a record and reminder of where and when the get-together will be held. If someone breaks rule number four, it is up to you to adhere to their faux pas and RSVP via telephone. It’s only fair. While caller ID may have done away with this problem, early phone etiquette guides instructed people to guess who was calling rather than ask directly. Their reasoning—that the question “Who are you?” is belittling—still makes sense today. An early 20th century phone guide for women advised them to handle all quarrels by telephone. According to the guide, the ability to immediately connect with someone over the phone prevented both parties from stewing over the offending matter on their own, which only makes things worse. In some telephone networks in the 1910s, using profane language could result in a fine (or even a trip to court!). Keep it polite, folks. In an effort to encourage people to speak more clearly into their telephones, one California service had to remind male users to keep their mustaches out of the mouthpiece’s opening. It was a good method to ensure folks had the right number. Time-consuming, yes, but nowadays it’d be a nice way to remind ourselves of our own numbers, something that often gets lost in the age of digital phonebooks. In the ‘40s and ‘50s, it wasn’t considered rude to stop someone mid-sentence to tell them you were done with the conversation. In fact, a phone service issued a suggested phrase to use: “I’m sorry, but I have to stop now. Thank you for calling.” This was calculated to be the ideal distance to ensure the best sound quality. Anything that eliminates speakerphone shouting is still advisable today. This should have been a no-brainer then and it should be a no-brainer now, but phone companies had to remind people to focus on the conversation, not their cigar or newspaper. That reminder is still needed today (except for the cigar and newspaper part…). Unless instructed to by the call’s recipient. Staying off the phone in general past that hour (which means no email, texting, etc.…) will be a boon to your sleep schedule. |
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