We all have different interests, kinks, comfort levels, and experience when it comes to sex. Things that will turn you on may not turn on others. However, the beauty in it all is not only the acceptance and open-mindedness of these different things but also exploring them. I personally like the idea of being called “Daddy” during sex. For me, I think it comes from the idea that I like having no boundaries and a willing partner who is up for different things. In this article, I am going to go over what I know about men and why we like being called Daddy.
Why Do Guys Like Being Called Daddy During Sex?
Guys like being called daddy during sex because it stimulates their brain in a more instinctive way by complimenting important evolutionary traits like dominance, an abundance of resources, status, and power. That is why some men have sexual kinks that involve aggression, being rough, and tying you up.
It is easier to understand if you look at things from an evolutionary perspective. The job of every organism is to survive and reproduce. At least, that is how our brains are made to think in order to successfully pass down our DNA in the case of offspring and continue living as a species on Earth. To do this, you have to have traits to survive (power, strength, resources, status, and so on) and traits that are appealing to someone in order to want to reproduce with you (health, strength, provider, satisfier, and more). In my opinion, “Daddy” is the perfect word to sum all that up.
It does not mean you like your father. I think that comes from more Freudian Psychology which has always been hard to measure. Humans are so complex that it is never one thing that pinpoints why we do the things we do.
Does Calling Him That Mean I Like My Dad?
Not at all. I truly believe people overthink this because of how taboo it is. Think of it like this, you call each other baby don’t you? Does that mean you like babies? Of course not! It’s just a term of endearment. You may argue with:
“Yea, but when I call him baby it doesn’t feel weird, everyone does it, and I think nothing more of it. However, when I call him daddy, I feel weird.”
You feel that way because that is literally the definition of Taboo:
“A social or religious custom prohibiting or forbidding discussion of a particular practice or forbidding association with a particular person, place, or thing.”
It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. It doesn’t mean you love your dad. It just may feel weird because you feel guilty due to it being taboo. Here is a list of other Taboo things that people often do:
- Raceplay
- Roleplay being raped
- BDSM
- Having sex in public
- Anal
- The chance of being watched
- Recording
Think about it: Just because you like raceplay doesn’t mean you’re racist. Just because you like anal as a guy doesn’t mean you’re gay. Just because you roleplay being raped doesn’t mean you secretly want to be raped. Having sex in public doesn’t mean you want to work on porn. I think it’s the thrill that lures us. I think it’s the mystery and how it unfolds that we find so appealing and attractive.
What Are Other Reasons Men Like Being Called Daddy During Sex?
I believe what I said above is the most accurate and common reason why men like being called “Daddy” whether they know it or not. It’s more subconscious and instinctual. However, it’s not the only reason. Here are several more reasons why men like being called Daddy:
They’re Experiencing Something New With You
I always preach to my clients that one of the best things you can do in order to build attraction with a guy (or anyone for that matter) is to try and experience something new with them. Whether that is participating in a challenge together, going through the ups and downs as a couple, traveling, learning new hobbies, or working out together, it creates a stronger bond. This is no different. If you two are not sexually experienced or one of you are and the other is not, this kind of stuff if never done before is a “first” with each other.
I can’t tell you how many times I have my guy friends come to me saying how amazing this girl he is talking to in bed is because she loves to do XYZ. It’s fun, new, and exciting to him. At the same time, I have female clients come to me and tell me how they just got a divorce a year ago and their husband is the only man they been with until this last guy and how different and dominating he was. She would go on to explain how she’d be married to her husband for 15 years but never tried the stuff that she’s currently doing with her new partner.
That stuff sticks out of the mind like a sore thumb. It’s good to experience new things with a partner and I think sexual fantasies is a good start.
It Gives Him Validation
It gives a guy validation in multiple ways. For one, you calling him that could be you opening up, trusting him, and showing how much you like him. It could also make him feel like he’s providing for you as the masculine role, something very important to men.
As men, we strongly correlate our self-worth in our purpose/mission and what women think of us. If we cannot attract women, by definition, we are sterile. Calling him this is a clear sign in his mind that he likes you, is satisfying you during sex because you’re trying different things, and obviously, he is going to assume you’re having sex with him and calling him names because you’re turned on and interested.
It Increases The Mood And Makes Him Feel Experienced
No one likes boring vanilla sex. This is going to be controversial and I don’t want to pressure anyone into doing anything they’re not comfortable with but just because sex feels good doesn’t always mean it’s fun. Sex is about connection, chemistry, emotion, experience, and exploring untouched boundaries. Things like name-calling, aggression, roleplaying and having sex in different locations add a whole new layer to the attraction scale when it comes to sex.
I tell my guy friends and clients (not suggesting, just telling them my opinion) that I truly believe both sexes can easily become better and more appealing in the bedroom if they’re more open-minded and willing to try new things instead of hooking up constantly in the same 2-3 positions you always go back to.
I am not saying give yourself up to a man if you’re not comfortable doing so. I am not saying you should be submissive and deal with it. He should be very intuned to how you feel and act in your best interest. However, the sexiest thing a woman has ever done was lay back on the bed and say, “Do whatever you want to me” and actually mean it.
Again, you don’t have to do that and I hope that doesn’t make you feel pressured in stepping out of your comfort zone. That is just MY experience and I bring it up because I think it heavily relates to why men like being called Daddy. It’s taboo, unknown, and shows a willingness to please.
That is my take on why guys like being called Daddy. It is an instinctual thing that touches deeply on an evolutionary drive where the guy is being told he has the traits to survive and reproduce. It shows interests, it’s taboo, and make him feel like a provider and satisfied. Do you agree with my take? Let me know in the comments below!
If you’ve ever heard a guy called Daddy, then you know how much we like it. Hint: We actually LOVE it.
Why do guys like being called Daddy?
Guys like being called Daddy because it taps into their primal desire for masculinity, dominance, and power. The word “Daddy” comes with psychological, emotional, and contextual meanings. Guys also like being called Daddy because of the intimate, flirty, and erotic overtones.
In this article, you’ll learn everything you need to know about why guys like being called Daddy—including when and how to call a man Daddy to drive him crazy with attraction for you.
15 Reasons Guys Like Being Called Daddy
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There are at least 15 good reasons that guys like being called Daddy.
Grouping them together, the reasons generally come down to the word “Daddy” sending a shockwave of psychological and emotional pleasure to him.
Why do guys like being called Daddy?
Here are the top 15 reasons.
1) Dominance Trigger
Guys like being called Daddy because it triggers their internal desire to feel powerful and dominant.
There’s something about the word that just sets off a guy’s primal instincts. When a woman calls him Daddy, suddenly he feels the need to take charge and step into a dominant role.
That’s why I call this (and many other reasons on this list) a trigger.
The desire for power and dominance is a deeply ingrained part of who he is, and it’s one of the things that makes him feel most alive.
Being called Daddy allows him to express himself in a way that feels natural and right.
It’s one of the ultimate compliments a man can receive, and it’s something that will always make him feel good.
2) Submission Trigger
Men respond strongly to vulnerability.
When a woman expresses her submissive side, it can be a huge turn-on for her partner. In particular, men are often drawn to the contrast of a woman who is usually in a more dominant role taking on a more submissive role (even if it’s temporary).
This flip of the typical power dynamic can be highly intoxicating for a man.
When you think about it, the Submission Trigger is the opposite of the Dominant Trigger.
To make a man feel more powerful, you can either increase his power, decrease your power, or do both. Again, this is often a short-lived role exchange in an intimate conversation or encounter.
3) Daddy Masculinity
To many men, being called “Daddy” is a way of affirming their masculinity.
It’s a way of saying, “I’m the one in charge here. I’m the one who can take care of you and make you feel safe.” In a world where men are often feeling emasculated, that can be a very empowering feeling.
Indeed, for some men, being called “daddy” is less about physical intimacy and more about feeling like a powerful and competent man.
And there’s nothing wrong with that.
4) Intimate Pet Name
Pet names are terms of endearment that couples use to refer to one another.
They are “inside language” used to show affection and intimacy. And while there are many different pet names that can be used, one of the most popular is “Daddy.”
As a pet name, the word “Daddy” shows a level of intimacy and connection. When you call someone Daddy, you are showing that you have a close and intimate relationship with them.
You are also signifying that they are someone with whom you feel comfortable and safe.
5) Taboo Trigger
Being called Daddy is connected to taboo relationships that exist on the fringe of intimate encounters.
For some men, the appeal of being called Daddy is that it activates the Taboo Trigger. This trigger is based on the theory that we are hardwired to respond to taboo activities because they offer a sense of excitement and danger.
And while breaking taboos can be thrilling, it’s also important to remember that they need to be approached with care.
After all, you don’t want to do anything that could damage your relationship or make your partner feel uncomfortable.
If you’re interested in exploring this side of your sexuality, make sure you read the Do’s and Don’ts later in this article. They will help you make the most of calling your guy “Daddy” while avoiding awkward situations.
6) Fantasy Trigger
Calling a man Daddy is one of the quickest and easiest ways to get him “in the mood.”
That’s because the term “Daddy” activates what I like to call the Fantasy Trigger, a psychological mechanism that causes almost instant arousal in response to certain stimuli. In this case, the stimulus is the word “Daddy.”
For many men, hearing a woman say “Daddy” evokes memories of watching adult videos or hearing stories about BDSM relationships.
Therefore, guys like it when you call them Daddy because the term is loaded with contextual meaning.
7) Arousal Trigger
One of the reasons guys like being called Daddy is because it activates the Arousal Trigger.
You could say that being called Daddy is a shortcut way to automate arousal. Certain terms hold connotative meaning packed with emotion and psychological power.
When we hear the word “Daddy,” certain images and associations are automatically activated in our minds.
You are using a term that has a deep and rich meaning.
For some guys, Daddy is a term of endearment that conjures up happy memories of a loving father figure. For others, it might be a reminder of a more dominant or authoritarian male figure.
Either way, the word Daddy carries a lot of emotional weight and can be a powerful turn-on for many guys.
It’s also worth noting that Daddy is often used as a sexy nickname for men in positions of power, such as CEOs, law enforcement, and doctors.
8) Feeling Respected and Admired
Guys like being called Daddy because it is a term of respect and admiration.
In a world where men are often disrespected, this simple act can be incredibly powerful. It can make a man feel appreciated and valued, two things that are all too often lacking in our society.
When a woman calls her partner “Daddy,” she is conveying a very positive message about him.
Unfortunately, society and popular media often depict men as bumbling idiots or buffoons. Receiving positive reinforcement is refreshing. It feels good to be respected, and that is one reason why some guys like being called daddy.
9) Youthful Trigger
Guys like being called Daddy because it is a term usually used by younger adult partners.
Men value youth in a relationship, which is why so many men date women 5, 10, 15, and 20 years younger than them. A woman’s youth is seen as a reflection of her beauty, fertility, and desirability.
While these are not the only factors that men consider when choosing a partner, they are certainly important ones.
And for many men, the idea of dating a younger woman is incredibly appealing.
There are a number of reasons why guys find younger women so attractive:
- Younger partners are usually more attractive
- Younger partners might be more fun and energetic
- Younger partners make men feel desirable
- Younger adult partners symbolize innocence and vulnerability
- Younger adult partners provide a sense of submission
10) Trust Trigger
Some guys love being called Daddy because the term signifies a deep level of trust.
See, when you call your guy Daddy, you’re actually activating what’s known as the Trust Trigger. This trigger is incredibly important to men because it’s what tells them that you trust them and that they can trust you.
The term allows men to let their guard down and be dominant with you (at least for the moment).
Calling a man Daddy means that you trust him to hear, understand, and respond to the pet name in a trustworthy and safe way.
11) Sign of Interest and Desire
Being called Daddy is a sign of interest and desire.
It means that the person sees you as someone they are attracted to and with which they want to be intimate. This is a huge ego boost for guys, who often feel like they are the ones who have to initiate intimacy in relationships.
Seeing that their partner desires them is a huge turn-on, and it can make them feel more confident and desired.
It also shows that their partner is interested in exploring a more intimate side of their relationship.
12) Protector Trigger
When a woman calls her man Daddy, it activates the protector trigger.
Men love feeling like a hero and a protector. It’s in their DNA. When they feel needed and appreciated, they feel happy and fulfilled.
It’s one of the main reasons why men stay in relationships.
They want to feel like they’re needed and that they’re doing something worthwhile. When a woman calls her man Daddy, she’s telling him that he’s her hero and that she needs him.
This makes him feel good about himself and motivates him to protect and provide for her.
13) Scientific Marker of Better Relationships
According to a research study, pet names like Daddy can have a big impact on relationship satisfaction.
The study, which was published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, found that couples who used pet names like “Daddy” reported higher levels of relationship satisfaction.
Why might this be?
The most likely reason is that it simply feels good to be called a cute name that conveys love and admiration.
14) Early Relationship Booster
According to the same research article, couples who are in happy and healthy relationships tend to use pet names (such as “Daddy”) much more early on in the relationship.
When couples do this, they meet specific needs in the crucial building phase of a relationship.
By calling a man Daddy, you are fulfilling an important need for him as his commitment grows for you. You don’t want him second-guessing the relationship before it’s had time to get off the ground.
15) Exclusive Trigger
Men enjoy being in exclusive clubs, groups, and circles.
One way to activate the Exclusivity Trigger is to call a man Daddy. Most guys want to be the kind of guy that girls call Daddy. However, few guys get called Daddy.
Therefore, when you call him Daddy, he instantly feels superior to other men. He is now among the small, select percentage of men who get called this coveted name.
Here is a good video that talks about why so many men enjoy being called Daddy:
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YouTube Video by Tips for Women—Why Do Guys Like Being Called Daddy?Dos and Don’t of Calling a Guy Daddy
When calling your guy Daddy, there are certain things you should do and not do.
By following these guidelines, you prevent awkward moments that could make your relationship worse rather than better.
Here are the Dos and Don’ts of calling your man Daddy.
The DOs
Do Call Him Daddy In Private: Whether you’re in a crowded room or your home is full of family, sometimes the only way to get your man’s attention is to whisper “Daddy” in his ear. You know he loves it when you call him that, so why not use it to your advantage?
When you need his full attention, lean in close and give him a little whisper.
He’ll be all yours in no time.
Do Call Your Man Daddy When Flirting: If you want to turn up the heat, there’s nothing more effective than calling your man “Daddy.” It’s a surefire way to let him know that you’re thinking about him in a very intimate way.
Whether you’re texting him or speaking to him in person, adding a little bit of daddy playfulness into your flirting will definitely get his attention.
Do Call Him Daddy Through Text: Technology has made it so easy for us to stay connected to our loved ones, even when we’re apart. So if you’re feeling frisky and want to let your man know that you’re thinking about him, send him a naughty text saying “Daddy.”
He’ll love getting a dirty message from you, and it will definitely make his day.
Do Call Him Daddy in Non-Sexual Conversations: Men love this term no matter the context of the conversation. Saying “Yes, Daddy” in the middle of a discussion about groceries can immediately make the conversation flirty and more fun.
Do Call Him Daddy in Bed: If there is one place men want to be called Daddy, it is in the bedroom. Most guys associate the term “Daddy” with physical intimacy, so all of his internal switches will flip on immediately.
Do Call a Man Daddy Around His Boys: He will feel like the absolute boss of his friend group. They might tease him (ok, they WILL tease him) but they will secretly feel insanely jealous and want to be him.
The Dont’s
Don’t Call Him Daddy If The Term Creeps Him Out: Many men like to be called Daddy but you should probably avoid using it unless you’re absolutely sure it won’t creep your partner out. For some guys, the term is a complete turn-off.
It might evoke unwanted associations with their own father, or it might make them feel like they’re being infantilized.
So if you’re not sure whether your guy is into being called Daddy, it’s probably best to steer clear.
Don’t Call Him Daddy at Work: Sometimes, when you’re working with someone you really click with, things can start to feel a little bit…familiar. Maybe you start using pet names or inside jokes, and before you know it, you’re calling your co-worker, “Daddy.”
But here’s the thing: no matter how comfortable you feel with each other, it’s important to remember that you’re at work.
And while there might not be an explicit rule against calling someone “Daddy” in the office, it’s definitely not something you want to do.
Not only is it inappropriate, but it could also get both of you in big trouble.
Don’t a Man Daddy Around His Family: There are plenty of things that can cause a rift between you and your partner, but calling him Daddy in front of his family is definitely not worth it. It’ll probably embarrass him and his family, and that will only serve to drive a wedge between the two of you.
Just avoid it altogether.
There’s no need to put yourself in an awkward situation when there are plenty of other nicknames you can use for him. Just call him by his name and save the Daddy for when you’re alone together.
Don’t Call Him Daddy If You Don’t Mean It: It’s better not to call a man Daddy than to say it insincerely. Not only could it lead to misunderstandings between you and him, you could also hurt his feelings.
Don’t Call a Guy Daddy if You Don’t Want to Send the Wrong Message: Basically, don’t call a guy Daddy if you are not in the mood for some intimate fun. When guys hear the word “Daddy” their mind and body automatically go into “physical intimacy” mode.
If you are not in the mood right at this moment, it’s best to avoid saying, Daddy.
Why Do Guys Like Being Called Daddy? (Forum Results)
If you search for “Why do guys like being called daddy?” you see many people answering the question in forums.
I won’t repeat what they say here.
I’ll simply summarize and condense their ideas into straightforward bullet points.
Why Do Guys Like Being Called Daddy? (Reddit)
Here’s the gist of what people are saying on Reddit:
- It turns them on
- Some guys find it pretty creepy and unnecessary
- It could be a “dom-sub” relationship
- Other guys don’t like any dirty talk at all
Why Do Guys Like Being Called Daddy? (Quora)
Here is a simple list of what people are saying on Quora about calling guys Daddy:
- Learned behavior from watching adult content online
- Not all guys like being called Daddy
- Some guys are into “age play”
- Guys enjoy stepping into a role of power
Why Do Guys Like Being Called Daddy So Much (Yahoo Answers)
Yahoo Answers ended its long forum run in 2021.
However, you can find other forums talking about why guys like it when their partners call them Daddy (and I wrote this article to help answer the question).
For example, check out forums such as GirlsAskGuys and TheStudentRoom.co.uk.
30 Fun and Flirty Ways To Call a Guy Daddy
Now that you know why guys like it, here are 30 fun and flirty ways to call your guy, Daddy.
Enjoy!
30 Ways To Call Him Daddy
- Hey, Daddy
- Ok, Daddy
- Yes, Daddy
- Anything for you, Daddy
- Here I am, Daddy
- What do you want me to do, Daddy?
- Do you like that, Daddy?
- Come and get it, Daddy
- You can have it all, Daddy
- Oh, Daddy
- Thank you, Daddy
- I needed that, Daddy
- You always know what I need, Daddy
- You’re the best Daddy ever
- No one can compare to you, Daddy
- Big Daddy
- My Daddy
- My Only Daddy
- Naughty Daddy
- Good Daddy
- Yummy Daddy
- Handsome Daddy
- Strong Daddy
- Dirty Daddy
- Hot Daddy
- Spicy Daddy
- Right there, Daddy
- Take it, Daddy
- Come here, Daddy
- I need you right now, Daddy
Final Thoughts: Why Do Guys Like Being Called Daddy?
Let me repeat: Not everyone is comfortable saying or being called Daddy.
But many guys secretly want you to call them Daddy. The best way to find out is to ask them and then respect their wishes.
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Sources
SAGE Journals (Research Paper on Pet Names)
Sage Journals (Power in romantic relationships: How positional and experienced power are associated with relationship quality)